The longer I live, the more I realise the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company … a church … a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude … I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you … we are in charge of our Attitudes.
Reverend Charles Swindoll
This is one of my favourite quotes and it is the mantra that I aspire to. I like to have a positive attitude and be grateful, not only for what I have, but for my experiences as well, these, good and bad, have shaped me into the person I have become today.
Taking this a step further I am also grateful for things I desire in order to attract them into my life, this is synonymous with the law of attraction where is is considered that the universe will provide the object of your thoughts. I know this is a little hard for some to understand, but think of it this way, if you centre your thoughts on your desires, your unconscious mind will guide your conscious one into actions that will help fulfil it.
Be grateful in general terms and use positive words that reflect your desire. Do not wish to win the lottery, this will limit financial gain only to this area. Also be careful on the wording, do not wish to be debit free, the unconscious mind takes your thoughts literally so use of the word debt may encourage reckless spending to increase it. If you want to sort out your money a good way to think about it would be to be grateful for financial security.
A gratitude diary is a useful tool and can be used by anyone to help refocus your thoughts and emotions plus increase your positivity.
You can write in your diary anytime you choose. Some people keep it by their bed and reflect on the positive and happy parts of their day each evening. This can put your mind in a ‘happy frame’, this will go on through the night and you wake up feeling positive. Others like to keep it with them during the day and write down happy positive thoughts and events as they occur.
Begin each entry with ‘Today I am thankful for….’ Or something similar that you feel comfortable with. Be thankful for the things you choose to have in your life, include things from the exercise, this will bring them into the present.
Use positive words and phrases, concentrate on what you are, not what you’re not and what you choose, not what you don’t. For instance if you wish to be happy, saying “today I am thankful that I wasn’t sad” will keep your focus on sadness, you should say, “today I am thankful for my happiness”, this will being happiness into your present thoughts and change your focus.
Speak in the present, if you talk of things in the future they will always be there and out of reach. Saying I will be happy will not create happiness now, you must say I am happy. Use specific dates not tomorrow or next year, again, these will always be thought of in those terms, they will stay in the future and be out of reach. Everyday has a tomorrow and we all know tomorrow doesn’t come.
Always remember, apart from keeping things positive and in the present, there are no rules, it is your gratitude diary and you should use it in the way that works best for you.